33 Ways to De-Funk Your Day

If you’re anything like me, occasionally you find yourself in a funk. Not a physical, I-need-a-shower kinda funk; and not a Play that Funky Music, White Boy getcha movin’ kinda funk. Just an I’m in a funk kind of way. Here are some ideas for dealing with it:

  1. Practice gratitude: make a list of 3-10 things right now for which you can be grateful.
  2. Go for a walk; invite some humans &/or dogs along.
  3. Feed yourself. Honestly, sometimes your mood has everything to do with hunger.
  4. Drink a large glass of water. Repeat.
  5. Take deep breaths.
  6. Stretch.
  7. Pray.
  8. Phone a friend; bonus points if it’s a) your bestie or b) someone you haven’t talked with recently.
  9. Take a nap.
  10. Get alone somewhere.
  11. Write out all the feels; don’t think, just let the ink flow.
  12. Pet an animal.
  13. Work out hard: sweat the bad feels out to let the good feels in.
  14. Play your sport. If you don’t have a regular sport, gather some friends for a quick game of whatever suits you. Dodgeball is fun.
  15. Laugh! Watch YouTubes of laughing babies or silly animals, or late night TV, or just laugh at your own silliness.
  16. Try a new perspective. Sit upside down on the couch. Or rearrange the furniture.
  17. Smell a rose, preferably homegrown. Inhale down to your toes.
  18. Read a good book or flip through a magazine.
  19. Listen to music. Or make music if that’s your thing.
  20. Cook your favorite food. Share it with someone.
  21. Serve someone. Take cookies to a neighbor you don’t know well and have a quick chat. Or find out what a shelter organization (homeless, immigrant, old age or hospice) needs and do something for them.
  22. Put on some music and dance. Lose yourself in the music and the movement.
  23. Go for a swing on an actual swing.
  24. Enter another world: if your world isn’t working, find one that does in a book or a movie or a TV show or in your imagination…write your own new world!
  25. Take yourself on a field trip to a zoo or a museum.
  26. Learn something. Indulge your curiosity.
  27. Play a game with others. My favorites: Chinese checkers, UNO, Spot It, HuggerMugger, Taboo. Others like: Settlers of Catan, Ticket to Ride, Mexican Train (Dominoes), Hand and Foot, Cards Against Humanity (caution: lewd humor). If you can’t decide on a game, do a puzzle.
  28. Do something daring. Try a new-to-you adventure activity; register for a class; turn the shower on COLD and dare yourself to jump in.
  29. Travel: there’s nothing like it, even if your travels only take you to the next town. Imagine yourself a tourist and see your own locality with new eyes.
  30. Make something. Anything. Take something old and make it new. Take things apart and put them together differently. Play with the art supplies of your childhood: crayons, colored pencils, markers, any paint supplies, play-doh or clay. Don’t worry about what things look like, just enjoy the creative process.
  31. Knock some things off your to-do list. Start with the most annoying task and get it done already.
  32. Discern the reason behind your funk and do something about it.
  33. Find your happy place! For me, that’s the beach. The ebb and flow, the salty smell, the sand between my toes and the occasional unexpected brisk wave catching my ankles, gulls’ crying, the crisp air on my face as I hug my sweater closer… all of it has a cumulative effect that dissolves my funk into a bad memory.

Better yet, employ a combination of ideas, something like: pack a snack and invite a friend and dogs on a hike. Or take yourself on a field trip, find a quiet outdoor spot, and spend a few minutes writing in a journal. I’d love to hear your de-funk-ing ideas!

Creatively Connecting People to Great People

You know what I mean: some people just light up the world. Not just the room, but the hearts and faces and lives of everyone she encounters. Tori is one of those people. The last time I saw her, she arrived on my doorstep with a delightful squeal, an armful of flowers, and a story about the new friend she made in line while waiting to purchase them. People flit to Tori like hummingbirds to sugar-water, displaying in bright bursts their truest beauty.

Which is why I am so excited for you to read the story of her dream come true. As a gifted People Person, Tori was already successful, professionally and personally, at helping people into their best version of themselves. And yet she had a bigger, God-given vision. I first heard about what would become WIT years ago as we traveled to and from an evening event. Earlier that day she’d had an important business meeting to flesh out some of the hard and necessary details to turn this vision into reality. I was so impressed at how BIG she was dreaming and how HARD she was willing to work to make it happen.

Your story isn’t hers, but I wonder… What are your unique gifts? What path have you uniquely walked? And what bigger creative vision might God call you to?

Create Challenge #17: Tori Dabasinskas
A glimpse into the story of creating WIT Professionals

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Have you had ‘life happen’ and wondered, “Who in the world do I call?”

As someone who gets A LOT of these calls, I created WIT Professionals (Wellness Integrated Team) to honor my passion for connecting people with the right people.

WIT is my way of being creative! I am excited about WIT. I am excited to see how WIT is developing and growing. I am excited it is creatively doing the job it was set in motion to do: connecting people with great people when life happens and seeing individuals, families and businesses achieve positive change as a result of creative connection!

But first, let’s glance at the relationship story that under girds the business story.

A Glimpse of My Story
As a therapist/pastor’s wife, my experiences in social settings are funny. People either run and hide from me while holding their glass of wine behind their back or engage me in some incredible story while offering to buy me a drink! People either freak out or cannot wait to talk! Trust me, no event is ever the same.

I have walked intimately with relationship dynamics throughout my life. I am a daughter of a mayor and a teacher; a sister to a commercial developer and a politician; a mother of two beautiful teenagers; and a wife of a pastor deeply involved in local and international communities. In my professional world, I am a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice, and founder of WIT Professionals.

Personally and professionally I am deeply aware of the significance of relationships. My heart is full of stories of the rich value of people being connected to the right people when ‘life happens.’ When I say intimate dynamics, I mean it. My conversations over the years have rarely focused on surface issues.Paper Family

As a daughter: My parents were entrenched in community development. I had a front row seat to the value of connected relationships as well as to the destructive nature of painful ones.

As a mom: I was rooted in a community of school children and families. Moms were all in it together: scheduling, parenting, doing marriage, listening and participating in adult community gossip and story telling. At times it’s junior high all over, the issues just ‘more adult.’

As a wife: Marriage is as beautiful as it is challenging. Thanks to our faith in Jesus, the love of an amazing husband, our education and intentionality, we work hard to make something full of weakness as strong as we can. We deeply value our covenant to one another, trust God’s strength, and know what struggles and successes in connection feel like.

As a pastor’s family: When do people call a pastor? I will promise you, those calls aren’t about the weather or the stock market…well, sometimes the market, depending on their anxiety level. We are often invited into the messy and the magnificent. Whether I am invited into the specifics or not, I feel ‘the weather’ of my husband’s daily journey with people and organizations.

As a therapist: The ethically-bound and confidential office setting offers the safety for truths in personal dynamics and relationships that are at times precious and at other times almost unfathomable… The ground is sacred, a privilege, a place I consider it an honor to be present.

People’s stories all have a common thread: “Life is happening.” Leader or follower. Rich or poor. Life happens to all of us. I have counseled CEO’s and orphaned teenagers in Third World countries. All of us need connection. Personal or professional. I live in both camps, personal and professional, and almost always hear the same questions:

Who do I call?
How much does this cost?
Where do I go?
What in the heck do I do next?
Will you pray for me?

At the core of my being, I believe in the value and significance of connection. I feel a sense of richest joy and calling when I am at work connecting people with one another.

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How does a Wellness Integrated Team of Professionals, contracted by a family or company, support connection? Like a pit crew gets a race car driver back on track, a medical crew cares for a mother giving birth, a legal team toils in tandem to support a signed contract, a city council partners to support a proposition, WIT’s network supports a caller, appropriately connecting them with the best person for them when ‘life happens.’

Yet, how do people connect to WIT? Several ways, yet we’ll focus on one: The Employee Effectiveness Program Model. This is where a Business Owner knocks it out of the park on employee care.

  1. Invite WIT
  2. Connect WIT Professionals & Staff Face-to-Face
  3. Give a Gift Card

INVITE: A benevolent owner who wants their employees to feel well cared for and honored contracts with WIT.

CONNECT: The WIT Network of Professionals (1-3 of them) come to the business setting in person for a company coffee and a face-to-face introduction. Everyone connects. The professional is no longer a name on a website, but a safe new contact in person. WIT provides a tailor-made training/workshop as requested by the company (i.e.: managing stress for the holidays, conflict resolution, etc). This gives staff a feel for the professional’s heart and knowledge.

GIVE: In support of the employees, the company gives ‘WIT cards’ (like a gift card) loaded with a company-selected amount of professional consultations with WIT professionals: a licensed counselor, an executive coach, a nutritionist, a mediator, a financial planner, and others. Through a short-term contract, every staff person and owner who faces a ‘life happens’ moment now has a confidential professional consultant in their pocket to contact ‘as needed.’

FROM ANXIOUS QUESTIONS TO CONFIDENT ANSWERS
I know who to call.
The cost to me is $0. (Thank you, caring owner!)
I can do this on the phone or in person.
I can call right now.

After a WIT connection, you will know exactly what to do next. Phew! Anxiety and distraction decrease; focus and productivity increase.

And that’s just the business side of WIT. Can you imagine what we can offer a family?

Connecting people with the right people takes creativity. It is as complicated as it is fun. In my professional, pro-bono, and personal arenas of life, I am deeply intertwined in personal dynamics with people. I live a deeply connected life. Connecting people with the right people when our ‘Lives are happening’ is simply awesome, complicated, and a place I feel called to serve others. It is my passion. I cannot help myself but, by God’s grace and through lots of prayer, be as creative as possible in hope to make those connections happen!

TDaboTori lives in the Seattle area with her husband and two teenagers. She finds pleasure in anything outdoorsy—including hiking in the beauty of the Northwest, along the waterside or in the mountains—and especially, as life permits, horseback riding and playing tennis. One of her happy places is coffee and conversation with good friends; another is hot tubbing with her family and eating really great authentic taco truck-style Mexican food. She likes yummy wine, and also spinach in her smoothies. Connect with Tori through her website: www.witprofessionals.com

 

 

 

 

Meatless Monday – Wellness Teas

superbowl-foodAnyone overdo it this weekend? Anyone? C’mon, yesterday was Superbowl Sunday, after all. Even if you ate (mostly) healthy perhaps, like me, you still managed to eat a few too many bites of, for example, nachos or Girl Scout cookies?

About a year ago I read a cookbook that advocated starting each day with a cup of hot water infused with juice of half a lemon and a dash of cayenne pepper. When I had lemons on hand and took the extra few seconds to juice it into a mug, I definitely felt a different perk in my stride. I didn’t give up coffee, mind you, but my “spicy lemonade” came first and helped me feel better.

Except I always prep the coffee before bed and Guy pushes the button when he gets up, so most days it’s easier to stick to my cuppa joe.

detox teaA few months ago I came across a similar recipe for a Detox Tea. Easy enough and perfect for my Work-at-Home Mondays, especially in the cold winter months when I really do not need yet one more cup of coffee.

Detox Tea
Juice of half a lemon + lemon rind (washed)
5 (or so) shaves of fresh ginger root
2 Tbsp apple cider vinegar
32 oz boiling water

I combine the whole lot in a Nalgene bottle and let sit for 10 minutes. Then I pop in one of my favorite metal straws and sip-and-work the day away. As it cools, usually around the time I have finished half the bottle, I add more hot water. Warm, healthy, hydrating – win, win, win.

And, no kidding, I have noticed week by week that I feel healthier on Mondays. Sure, the relaxed pace of working from home, the productivity boost I enjoy in my distraction-free zone + the benefit of popping in a load of laundry and/or dinner in a crock pot during a break still shorter than an in-office conversation, yah, all that helps. But the tea…!

The love keeps coming! I found another tea recipe, this one with ground ginger and turmeric, which made me So Happy as my orthopedist had suggested that I regularly ingest both as an anti-inflammatory for my bum knee. Bonus: it tastes like a riff on chai.

Anti-Inflammatory Tea
1/2 tsp ground ginger
1/2 tsp ground turmeric
2 c boiling water
a dash of your favorite non-dairy milk
a splash of sweetener of choice

Again, I use a Nalgene bottle to steep ginger and turmeric in water. After 10 minutes, you could strain the concoction into another mug if you’re texture-sensitive; I don’t mind a little fine-ground spice grit in my drink, so I grab the almond or coconut milk and maple syrup in my fridge, pop in my straw, and enjoy.

spicesA few weeks ago Teen came home on a Friday night feeling “off.” About 2am, he scared the bejeebers out of me when he poked (and poked and poked) me in the arm to tell me “something is really wrong!” He had a fever, aches, chills, congestion… the flu. Sometime the next day I made him a bottle of Anti-Inflammatory Tea and way sooner than expected he was back to himself. Seriously, I thought he’d be down for a solid 4-7 days, but he went back to school Monday morning. Coincidence? Even if it is, I’d try the tea again.

Just for kicks, I looked up some of the health benefits of lemons, apple cider vinegar, ginger, and turmeric…

Lemon juice: Aids digestion; soothes a sore throat; prevents kidney stones; contains anti-cancer properties; reduces pain and inflammation; brings down a fever

Apple cider vinegar (unfiltered = best): Regulates blood sugar; contains probiotics; alleviates sore throats; breaks up mucous and congestion; combats constipation; whitens teeth

Ginger: Soothes digestion; reduces motion sickness and/or nausea; reduces exercise-induced muscle aches; reduces inflammation and soothes inflammatory conditions

Turmeric: Prevents cancer, Alzheimer’s disease, and liver disease; relieves arthritis; moderates blood sugar; reduces cholesterol; boosts immunity; improves digestion

So now if you’ll excuse me? I think it’s high time I make myself some tea!